Saturday, February 25, 2006

The Unfulfilled Lawyer?

I have a good friend whose husband is an airline pilot. He's a friendly, chatty guy. The kind of guy you hope you stand behind in a long line at an amusement park. (Some find him even more amusing than the rides.) He becomes instant friends with everyone he meets. Many times before a flight he will talk with the waiting passengers. Often they are in the process of moving and ask him if he knows what the people are like in their new town. As a world traveler he's met with people from just about everywhere, and likes just about all of them. He could just offer his experience; people are nice everywhere. But he's a smart guy. He doesn't answer them right away. Instead, he asks them a simple question,
"What are the people like where you are from?"
If they tell him how horribly miserable the people were back in their previous town, and how glad they are to leave then he responds that they're just as horribly miserable in the new place. If they respond with a glowing report of happy neighbors and lots of close friends that they hate to leave, then he encourages them by saying that the people in their new town are just as happy and nice.

In general I think he's right. Happy, vibrant people who enjoy their lives tend to believe others are living happy, content lives too. Miserable people believe just the opposite. They think everyone is miserable BUT them.

I was thinking about that today when I read this quote from feminist law professor Linda Hirshman . Ms. Hirshman doesn't believe the homemaker's claim that taking care of a family is the most fulfilling thing they could imagine;
"I would like to see a description of their daily lives that substantiates that position," Hirshman said. "One of the things I've done working on my book is to read a lot of the diaries online, and their description of their lives does not sound particularly interesting or fulfilling for a complicated person, for a complicated, educated person."
She goes on to counsel women against having more than one child. Why? Because entering the work world with two children is just too difficult! It only get's more ridiculous from there. She tells educated women who have left the workforce that they have "let down the team". And if the trend continues the Supreme Court could become ALL MALE. Gasp!

So in light of my wise friend, who do you think is the real unfulfilled soul here? The simpleton writing an online journal or the complicated lawyer reading them all for a book telling us how miserable we all really are?

(Hat tip to Ann at Palm Tree Pundit. She's another one of those suffering, unfulfilled mom's slaving away at her duties on the beaches of Hawaii. Pity the poor gal.)

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