From The Seattle Times: Home-schooling in the modern world: Success of home-schooled children,
Like many critics, I used to feel vaguely sorry for home-schooled kids. What a shame, I thought, that they might be deprived of the well-rounded education and social skills to become integrated, productive members of society. I never thought to question why cafeteria food fights or the predatory pack habits of teenage girls would be better for molding productive members of society. (snip)
Obviously, home education doesn't fit every family. But the evidence makes me think it's the kids who aren't home-schooled who may be missing out, not the other way around.
This article addresses one of the biggest objections to homeschooling - That homeschooled children will be deprived of needed social skills. This was an early argument against homeschooling that has been largely debunked. But it still comes up occassionally.
For me, I don't think much about socialization. In fact, I reject the whole notion of socialization all together. It is a straw man argument set up to force us to defend our choice to homeschool and prove what doesn't need to be proven. When those opposed to homeschooling ask about socialization they assume that this is a goal of all parents. That may be true for them but not for me. I don't seek to "properly socialize" my children. I seek to teach them wisdom so they may walk in Truth. In short, I seek to disciple them in Christ not socialize them for society.
The state and its schools cannot teach truth and the wisdom that comes from God. They are not seeking to disciple in Christ. So they must come up with another "virtue" to give credibility to their task. Socialization is that "virtue". In general I don't engage much in trying to define a term that will give added credibility to a false premise.
Is it necessary to be a good citizen and have proper etiquette? Absolutely. But the reasons for that behavior are more much important than just exhibiting a certain behavior. The schools teach socialization for the betterment of society. I desire disciples for the glory of God.
Philipians 2 states,
Denying self for Christ is the beginning of being properly socialized. Using that as my definition, it is the school children who are definitely missing out.
If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death— even death on a cross!